Trusting the universe

Trusting the universe

How often do we feel alone? we can all feel like it sometimes and wonder what the bigger picture is, I want to focus on trusting the universe more and looking at how we can do that. Check out this months Blog and see how.

 

Ironically today as I write my Blog I am feeling unwell and thought it was my week to do a vlog, so the universe has kindly let me off of being seen on camera.

But that is not what I wanted to talk about today, I feel it is important for people to follow their inner guidance and trust that everything that happens to us makes us stronger and has some level of learning attached to it.

Many of my clients have had some hard challenges during their lives, yet amazingly, they can all find something good that came out that situation.

We all can recall world disasters that have been catastrophic, yet many stories come out of how good came from bad circumstances.

I myself would not be here if it was not for the war,as my parents met in another country that my father would never have visited.

So how can we trust more and go with the flow of life? A great question for us all to contemplate.

In my experience as a Coach and Nurse over the years I find that it is not such a hard question to answer.

 We just need to live our lives the best we can with the knowledge we have at the time and do  ‘the next right thing’ in life.

I have made some poor choices when I look back, but I really was doing what I thought was right at the time, yet things have turned out well.

Perhaps with this understanding we can start to trust we are not alone, and things will work out in the end.

Love, respect, compassion, authenticity, and transparency are all part of what we need to practice and learn which will ultimately help us, AND make the world a better place.

So as they say, ‘don’t sweat the small stuff ‘and just be the best version of yourself you can and let the universe do the rest!

6 reasons why we need problems

We all have problems in life ( I prefer the word challenges myself) and today I want to give you 6 reasons why we need them in our lives.

Why we need to keep things in the day

We all can worry about the future and regret things in the past but the truth it is so unhealthy for our bodies, we deserve better and being in the day is really the answer.

A top tip for an instant De-stress

When we are overwhelmed we often have a habit of pushing ourselves harder and that can make us feel more stressed and pressured, how would it be to find a great way of slowing down that you can practice regularly? check out my new vlog and find out.

Tips on getting on better with people

There is a great skill we can easily learn and apply and my video today will hopefully help you to practice and get happier more enriched relationships.

Simplifying the tough stuff

Simplifying the tough stuff

I am sure you too have areas in your life that you struggle with, perhaps you have anxiety, or feel stressed and overwhelmed, may be you don’t seem to have enough hours in your day and get bogged down with your to do list .I can relate and have found this method I have written down in this months Blog really helpful.

In my experience we all have our challenges, some people work too many hours, have issues with saying no to others, put others before themselves, hurry from one action to another, suffer with low confidence or self-esteem, don’t have a healthy work life balance, feel out of control or overwhelmed,  the list goes on.

I personally have difficulty with academic pressures and today was a tough one! I am aware as a coach I am working with many people to help them feel more in control, and find tools to help with their challenges.

Today my amazing PA Richenda Solomon reminded me to practice what I teach and the most profound thing in any difficult situation is to tackle it in BITE SIZED portions.

She was able to really help me by printing out the long list of requests I had been given and highlight each one after I had read it, with a simple step by step action plan.

What I realised was, yes, I do know what to do but to implement the actions when I am feeling overwhelmed and fearful is often the hardest thing in the world for me ( and many others).

She was so amazing and told me to take a few breaths and relax, I took her advice and after we worked together on the actions I felt a real sense of accomplishment.

It was hard for me to push through the anxiousness and fearful state but I did actually manage it.

Part of this is why I just love being a Coach as I have so much empathy for others.

So the moral of my story is when you are feeling as I did, stop breath and start with bite sized actions and I promise the rest will become easier.

It’s the starting that makes all the difference.

 

Tips on handling being unwell

We all get unwell but when we push ourselves we can seriously impair our health, listening to our bodies and being kind and compassionate is really the way forward

The power of our feelings

We often dismiss our feelings or perhaps we don’t even recognise them, perhaps its time to find out the message of our feelings and how we can connect more with them.

The story of being nice

We all love a good story, well I do anyway.Real life events leave a bigger impression on us that text book writing so check this out for a light hearted, fun story.

The pain is in the story

The pain is in the story

How can we reduce our anxiety and stress, it may be more simple than you might think, have a read of this to see if it resinates with you.

These magical words have profoundly transformed my life and today I want to share my story with you.

Like many others  I have always been searching for a way to reduce stress and pain in my life, whether it be mental, physical or emotional.

Often I have felt overwhelmed and have a deep sense that I can not handle what life is throwing at me.

In those times of challenge over the past 25 years I have visited a very wise man who is also my dear friend.

He always said to me ‘Sandra the pain is in the story’ which to be honest has taken me many years to unpick and fully understand.

What it actually means is when I am in ‘my story’ of what has happened in the past and what might possibly happen in the future THAT is the place where most of my pain is.

When I worry about what life might throw at me in the future ,with all its uncertainties and if I fret about the past which I cannot change I start to feel PAIN.

Of course there is what I call ‘clean real pain’ which is in the now, perhaps a loss of a dear one, an incident, an event that brings pain in the moment . These are all pains that are real life ‘NOW’ pains which we need to feel and express, but the rest, as my dear wise friend says, are part of the ‘story’.

So now must be the time for the solution I hear you ask?

It may be a little simple to grasp but it is only in the NOW, this present moment ,that we will experience real peace.Staying focused on the ‘here and now ' really is a profound solution.

I am at present working with this as I have some pressures of the future coming that might be really difficult, but the truth is worrying about them now only brings me PAIN, anxiety and stress. The answer is to trust and deal with these situations as they arise.

I hope these 6 words transform your life as much as they have mine and bring you more peace.

 

 

 

stop beating yourself up

We can all beat ourselves up at times sometimes, but why? It only makes us feel bad and remember we are all human and make mistakes so check out my latest vlog and see how I help people to deal with it.

Taking the mask off

Exposing our true selves can make us feel very vulnerable, so why do it? check out this week’s vlog and find out the real benefits.

How to become a great Influencer

How to become a great Influencer

This Blog is written as a thank you to my daughter in law who helped me with a dilemma I had recently.

I was speaking to her about the expression ‘Practice what you Preach’, when I hear it I feel I am about to be dictated to by someone who is preaching to me about how things SHOULD be done, which often falls on deaf ears as no one really wants to be told what to do.

Over my lifetime I have come across many people who ‘talk the talk’ but don’t actually ‘walk the walk’.

I once met a surgeon who was a heart specialist and spoke to patients about reducing their weight, increasing their exercise, not smoking and reducing there process food intake.

We sat chatting at a social event and I noticed he smoked was overweight and often eat high fat processed foods, he said to me ‘I know I should do the actions I tell my patients to do, but If I am honest I don’t actually do them myself’

That day stuck in my mind and my dilemma was how can I help people change without preaching to people?

 As my daughter in law pondered, she said ‘Sandra just say I practise what I teach’ Wow how simple was that, I felt really humbled because I don’t have all the answers to improve your Health, but the actions I take have dramatically improved my own health and that is the example I want to show to the world.

It reminded me of an expression I used to say to my sons ‘don’t do what I do, do what I tell you’ ( luckily that is no longer the truth and I have made amends to them as that is not a great role model to be).

So if you want to be a real influencer remember what Gandhi once said…

‘Be the change you want to see in the world’ and let that be your influence.

LESS is MORE

we often feel we much have more of this and more of that, we just don’t get enough, perhaps its food, money, work or even love. Check out my new Vlog and see if you change your perspective.

One top tip to saying NO

I would imagine we all would often love a way to say no to others when we really are unable to do something, but often we feel unable to find the right words. Check out my new vlog to help you find out how.